I have a couple of questions that I am hoping someone could answer.
When I was 20, my ex-husband and I had a civil wedding ceremony (he is an atheist), in MD. I am the first to admit that we got married for all the wrong reasons: 1) his mother had just passed away and it was her last wish, 2) he had recently joined the military and it provided stability and 3) we wanted to be able to live together on base. The only right reason (aside from the fact that I really did love him) was that it would provide our son with a united family…but that still wasn’t a great reason to do it. However, for whatever reason, we did it.
After some training and a tour in Korea (he went solo - bad, bad idea), we finally were able to live together as a family, overseas. For the two years we were overseas (when he wasn’t on trainings or deployments, he was cheating and developing a problem with alcohol…additionally, abuse (physical, mental and verbal) became a bigger issue. He had always been verbally abusive, but it escalated after a deployment. In our home, you could never say “God”…he hit my son, once, for saying it. I never said anything to anybody out of fear but was given a chance to come home for a visit. He hit me in front of his father and our son…I made the decision to leave.
I digressed a bit from my question, but felt some background was needed. Here’s my question…I petitioned for and was granted a divorce (which was more celebrated than the wedding). I am now with a wonderful man who, like me, is Catholic. We talk about marriage ALL the time. Do I need to do anything special regarding my first marriage…or am I good to proceed with a Catholic wedding when the time is right?
Like I mentioned above, my boyfriend and I talk about marriage pretty frequently. My family has been friends with a Catholic priest, who currently lives in TN, for longer than I have been alive. When we get married, we really want him to officiate our wedding. He is practically family, and I couldn’t imagine a better way to be united with the love of my life.
How difficult would it be to have him be our officiant? What would need to be done?
This leads me to my 3rd question…
We would love to be able to get married outside (although, it we have to get married in the actual church, we would be fine with that too - gorgeous church). Would it be possible to do that…and would an out-of-state priest make it easier to have an outdoor wedding.
Sorry for the wordiness, but these are questions I have had for a long time and this is the first time I have found a site like this.
Thank you in advance!