First things first, don’t shoot the messenger. I’ve made an account purely to comment on this, because I would hope to clear up a misconception.
Though I may not be in the USA and base my views on Europeans, very often when I encounter of young catholics expressing doubt or disapproval of Church teaching regarding same sex marriage poor catechism is rarely the cause. Certainly, there are those who are deficient in some areas (The Immaculate conception especially ) but their understanding of marriage as the Church teaches is without flaw.
Ironically it’s not because the Catholic church has taught them it, but because it’s been quoted by various LGBT movements with nothing short of glee in full form along with one particular quote from the now Pope Emeritus, the one describing practicing homosexuals as intrinsically disordered and morally evil. The LGBT movement hardly needs to lift a finger beyond sharing that here, many of my students are outraged and disgusted by it. A couple have gay relatives, while others have seen the discrimination homosexuals suffer at the hands of the rest of the community at times. They see a minority within todays secular society campaigning for what seems to be equal standing within the law, only to be under what incessant attack by a variety of native and foreign faith organizations
I ran an anonymous survey along a few of my classes along with a youth group I used to run about a year ago. Nothing too challenging on it, but enough to identify if the taker knew church teaching and their personal stances on a variety of issues.
On many topics the church has had outstanding success in youths (14-18) accepting it’s teaching, abortion was condemned unanimously but for one reply (out of roughly 280-300 responses) but one issue stuck out .
89%. 89% were in favor of same sex marriages. They know the teaching, and they unashamedly reject it. I won’t bore you with a list of reasons but summarized it is deemed “repugnant”, “backwards”, “hate inspiring”, “insane” and “tyrannical”.
“The Church is out of touch with any sense of reality, they must lose their minds sat in the Vatican all their lives. It’s [The Catholic Church] more than happy to tolerate usury and go against it’s own teaching when it suits itself so why not queers?” was one that struck a cord with me, because the girl in question was of a devout family in regular church attendance.
Don’t think for one moment youths do not know the Churches stance, where I am it is impossible to have not heard it screeched at high pitch across social media, schools, churches and an increasingly vocal inter-denominational ministry. Futile of course, since that in itself only seems to vilify the Church further and push people into greater favor with the SSM movement.
The overwhelming majority of the laity within the UK are in opposition to church teaching over this matter. Don’t think it’s poor catechism, because they likely know the sections regarding marriage better than you do.
Note: I’m an RE teacher within a Catholic school, and the sheer level of pro-gay sentiment has made many of my colleagues within the subject area wary of raising the topic.