My fiance and I have been together for five years. I was a strict scientifically-minded materialist atheist when we met and fell in love. She has always been very vague about her beliefs or non-beliefs. I had a conversion experience about 10 months ago. I am now an RCIA candidate and plan to be a confirmed Catholic by Easter. We were engaged before my conversion experience. We have been planning a wedding for Dec. 20 of 2008.
So, tonight we went to our first wedding meeting at the church, just for general info and to pick up some forms. Among the forms was the bubble sheet and questions regarding our partner and our religious beliefs, etc. This led to a conversation about how we are going to raise the children. We both want kids. I of course expressed my obligation to raise them Catholics, which I had talked to her about before. This led to further discussion and disagreement. She was raised in a home bereft of real belief or religion. Nobody attended church, etc. I grew up an Episcopalean and was in the choir. By the end of the night, she said that she wants to raise the children without any religion. Of course I cannot have this. Raising the children Catholic is a non-negotiable. She suggested that we should call of the marriage. I asked her if she still wants to marry me. She said that she doesn’t now and will have to think about it. I have tried many times to explain the faith to her, even in terms that I know a non-believer can appreciate. I love her with all of my heart, and will never leave her, unless she leaves me first. But I will raise my children Catholic.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Prayers would be very helpful too. Her name is Scarlett. Thanks for reading. God bless.