First, I’d like to say thank you so much for taking time to read my post even if you don’t leave a reply. I’m just so grateful to find a community of people willing to answer questions or even to pray quietly behind the scenes.
Backstory: My husband is cradle Catholic, but we got married in a protestant church and have attended only protestant churches our whole marriage. We’ve been “church shopping” for a few years, and he asked me if I’d consider attending (not joining, mind you) the Catholic church. I figured after almost 20yrs of marriage I should at least give it a try.
Anyway, I decided to just go ahead and take RCIA classes, so I could prove to him all the reasons why I could NEVER become a Catholic. Needless to say, I found out all my reasons were misconceptions, and I have found myself actually on the road to converting. lol Unfortunately there have been a few roadblocks along the way that have left me feeling discouraged and depressed about the whole process. (But that’s another post…)
Reason for my Post: I finally got up the never to tell my mom about my conversion process, and got a 2 hour diatribe. One the one hand, I have no intention to argue with her about it because my spiritual journey is between me and God. But she raised questions which have left nagging doubts in my mind. If you feel so lead, could you help me answer these doubts, or point me to a website/book/resource where I could find answers. I would be very grateful.
Her first argument is that there is a culture of pedophilia within the priesthood. As the mother of a young boy, I have to admit this has troubled me also. I know the news has had a wonderful time bashing the Catholic church over this issue but… even today in the news I read about 10 priests in Spain that have been accused. Logically I know that pedophiles are drawn to where the children are (teachers, churches, etc.) but it seems like the Catholic church still has a problem.
She argues that it’s terrible that the Church decides if I’m “fit enough” to receive the Eucharist, just because I was married once before. Part of me understands the Church’s beliefs on this, but it truly breaks my heart at the thought of never being able to receive Eucharist if I am not granted an annulment.
It bothers me terribly that my current husband can get a form annulment in a snap (protestant wedding), but that I have to jump through hoops and hurdles that may prevent me from ever fully participating, when I wasn’t even Catholic or ever thought I would be. (Not to mention the incredible heartbreak I feel that I probably won’t be joining the church with my son this Easter like I hoped and anticipated.)
- And finally, she accuses the Church of being a giant, corrupt bureaucracy full of power mongers, financial corruption and an organization of rules instead of a house of love & welcome. That they’ve left Nuns who have devoted their lives to the church, in poverty and destitution at the end of their lives. (Apparently my Mom talked to some Nuns?) She went on to say that Pope Francis is the first Pope (because he’s Jesuit? I didn’t understand that comment) to speak out against, and tackle this behemoth, and that people have been leaving the Church in droves because of these “very real” problems.
I do have to say, it has bothered me somewhat that the Vatican/Popes seem to be a lavish lifestyle; with gold chairs and jewelry, limousines and living quarters. I know that Pope Francis has been living much differently but… why all the flash and wealth? Why the gold embroidered stoles and the air of royalty? It seems like so much political maneuvering and power plays just like our government. (Forgive me, I’m probably heavily influenced by the media.)
If you have stuck with me this far, thank you! If you dare to take on one or all of these questions, Bless You! :blessyou: