[quote="Love_Divine, post:4, topic:207909"]
As far as appeasing the Catholic church and whether or not they think his marriage is valid he doesn't...let's just say care and leave it at that. He's not practicing, and has nothing but bad things to say about it.
They are legally married and that's all that matters. This isn't a question about whether or not their marriage is valid in the eyes of the church because they don't care. People who are turned catholic by their parents before the age of majority can't be expected to remain catholic and believe it when it wasn't their choice, just like shot gun weddings aren't permitted in the catholic church.
I was simply asking if in order to become Catholic as an adult isn't there also something more than reciting a profession of faith that anyone can recite without actually believing. I mean like an interview that requires you to think and use your own words to make sure it's a sincere reason. I don't think someone who refers to communion as the "the cracker of Jesus" is in line for becoming a devout and believing Catholic.
However, there may come a time in the future when it will matter to your brother. It may not hit him tomorrow or the next day or the next year, but, something will happen during his life that could prompt him to return to the Faith.
Marriage is not just simply a legal contract between a man and a woman. It is a lifetime commitment. The couple needs to also be open to the new life that will come by way of children. God needs to also factor into all of this, and, if one party is Catholic, certainly, the Church has to play a vital role.
Granted, your mother may not have necessarily used the proper words to descibe baptism, but, she is correct in that baptism is necessary. Now, a dispensation from the bishop was needed for the Catholic party to contract into marriage with a non-baptized person. While the couple could have been validly married in the eyes of the Church,it is my understanding that the marriage becomes sacramental when the other party is baptized.
In any event, I hope that eventually, the couple will realize that three persons are necessary in a marriage in order to make it work: the man, the woman and God.