Here is the situation: My dear wife and I have been married for just over a year and a half, and when we first got married one of the issues in our marriage was the Catholic Church. The reason for this is that she was raised Catholic, but by a “Cultural” Catholic pre-Vatican II family (her mother is 73 and she is 30).
Her parents taught her all sorts of bizarre teachings, such as “you must behave for 15 minutes after you take the Eucharist because Jesus is inside of you and he would not be pleased,” and “If you cross your legs in church, you will go to hell.” Now I know that some of this may have been used by her parents to keep her in line during church, but she also didn’t get the truth from her years in CCD either.
So, when I came into the picture she had sought God in other places, and finally in an Evangelical Church. This proved to be a great experience for her, and did ground her in the basic beliefs true to all Orthodox Christianity. When we met, and later got married, I tried to help her see that the Catholic Church held the full meaning of the Christian faith.
But there was a problem: She did not want to return to the Church of her youth because she had such trouble finding God there. I then tried to show her that the things she was taught were not in fact true Catholic teaching at all, but “made up” teachings that did not reflect the truth of the faith. This went on for over a year until about three or four months ago.
At that time, she opened up her heart again and she enrolled (unknown to me) in the RCIA program at our local parish. .
This program is run by two women in the parish and meets every Sunday after Mass. About three or four weeks ago, one of the instructors brought in a book, “Meeting Jesus for the First Time,” by Marcus Borg. If you know Borg, you know that he denies the physical/bodily Resurrection of Jesus. She mentioned this and stated that, while he does hold views that the Church does not agree with, he is nonetheless a great author and one that has influenced her greatly – even to the point of going to hear him speak in a local mainline church. She did try to cover herself by bringing out another book with a debate between Borg and N.T. Wright about the true Jesus, but this seemed only a side note.
Also, in our last meeting, the issue of evolution was brought up during a study of the Nicene Creed, and, although the Catholic Church takes no definitive stand on the issue, the instructors went on to say that most Catholics believe in evolution and that the story of Genesis is just a myth that was used to instruct our primitive ancestors about God creating the heavens and the earth. It also should be said that in previous meetings, this issue of the trustworthiness of the Old Testament was brought up and taught that most, if not all, of it is not true and just stories that relate “truths” to us.
My wife originally left the Church because she felt that she was given half-truths and misinformation, and now that her heart is open to the truth of the Catholic Church she is again given half-truths and misinformation. We have thought of informing our Archbishop, Timothy Dolan, on the issue, as well as the pastor of the church. But is this too harsh? We are going to go to another church this weekend, but my wife is also concerned for the other people in the class who don’t know they are being taught mistruths. What of them? This is not just an issue of belonging to a social club, but of people’s souls. What should we do?