I just realized I forgot to update the thread "A bit confused about RCIA" from a while back -- and now the thread is closed.
To update, I did not end up joining the RCIA group. I was just too uncomfortable with the way it was presented. BUT I have found a wonderful, absolutely amazing parish that has been nothing but welcoming. I was absolutely blown away at how warm and welcoming the people were from the minute I walked into the building. It is definitely a greater distance away (about a 30 minute drive in metro traffic), but it has been well worth it.
I was too late to join their RCIA group, but am planning on joining this upcoming fall when it starts again. Until then, I'm enjoying meeting everyone (it's a massive church, so that will keep me busy until August) in the church and am enjoying the wait.
So, my advice to anyone that encounters what I did -- don't be afraid to try another parish, even if it is a bit of a distance.