You know, I had my daughter out of wedlock. And though I was leading a very sinful life prior to her conception… I began to change my life around the moment that I found out I was pregnant. I had a solid christian upbringing, and strayed from the straight and narrow for only a few months.
I do not make excuses for myself or this woman, nor do I condone EITHER of our circumstances. But one thing to consider is her intentions now. Is she going to give the baby up for adoption? Is she solid in her Chrisian values now?
No person running ANY youth group is completely without sin.
Is she ready to make an example of herself as a teaching tool to NOT get yourself in a situation where this can happen? Can she make an example of herself and let the kids learn a great lesson about making things right again AFTER a huge mistake or sin?
We live in a different world and no doubt many of these youth have a friend or peer that has either had an abortion or has a habit of ‘hooking up’ or is pregnant and not contrite.
We can try to sanitize Christianity and only allow the seemingly perfect to be great teachers, but then where would we be without Fr. Corapi et. al. who have led less than pristine lives before adding so much to our Faith formation?
It would take a VERY RARE lady to be able to provide the kind of humble and contrite leadership that I am supportive of. A good conversation with her, the priest and the DRE might offer some opportunities for great teaching material. It will become very plain immediately if she is the type of person that can pull it off.
Ultimately I agree with everyone here who says that it probably isn’t a good idea to have her as a youth director. It takes a very humble and honest and Christian person to be able to own up to their mistakes completely and then present themselves as an example against that type of lifestyle. Not many people are in a position to be able to do that, let alone a young person.
But they are out there, and I think it might be beneficial to take a few minutes and see if she might be one of them.