I just started RCIA recently and have also been attending Mass in addition to going to church with my husband. When I first told the hubs that I was starting RCIA, I also told him that I would still continue to attend the Protestent church we’ve attended for many years with him for the time being. That sounds like a fair enough compromise except that it makes me miserable and depressed.
He’s not been terribly thrilled about my decision, so that’s part of why I continue to go with him. He’s a sports nut who likes to attend NFL and MLB games; I’m not terribly crazy about sports, but I’ll go with him anyway. At least with sporting events, I can use the ad a good excuse to knit. With a church service, I just can’t whip out my knitting during the service.
I’m torn. While I want to support my husband and our marriage, I also need to honor myself and my convictions. I need to do what is best for me emotionally and spiritually, but still consider his feelings and wishes.