I knew full well when I converted that it would bother the Mormon side of my family. My brother and his family were on vacation over Easter weekend the year I came in but my stepmother and her husband said they'd be there for me. Lo and behold my stepmother hurt her back that afternoon and was unable to attend; since she didn't come, neither did her husband. I got over it but I wondered at the time if she was just trying to avoid being at Mass (she was raised Catholic).
Now my oldest daughter's First Communion is coming up. Earlier this week my stepmother and I were talking about the Easter Vigil and she expressed surprise at the number of people who were willing to still join the Church in light of the abuse scandal. I said something about people walking toward the Truth regardless of the human sin surrounding it and changed the subject. Now she's decided she's not coming to either my daughter's Communion or the party after for what I feel are ridiculous, avoidant reasons. My kids are her ONLY grandkids. She has no contact with my brother's kids at all. One of her daughters had a hysterectomy some time ago and the other has no plans to ever get married again let alone have children. I've spent my entire life being sensitive to their religious needs and I just feel like I've been kicked to the curb again. This is more a vent than anything else, but I've been so careful to try to cultivate a respectful relationship with her and it hurts.