What are some of the ways that Catholics might attempt to defend their choice to live in an invalid marriage (and thus live in the sin of ongoing fornication or adultery)?
I am not asking anyone to condone or justify this choice — I know I certainly don’t — but I would like some insight as to the psychology going on in these situations.
Some possible rationales I’ve thought of:
- The Church is wrong, behind the times, and out of touch with people.
- Celibate males don’t understand marriage.
- Love is more important than doctrine.
- The Church will eventually change to allow this, it just hasn’t happened yet.
- It’s not a big enough sin to worry about, certainly not bad enough to go to hell.
- Everybody else does it, so it can’t be wrong.
- I don’t feel like I’m doing anything wrong.
- Being in good standing with the Church doesn’t have anything to do with my relationship to God.
- I’ll settle things up with God before I die.
Any other ideas?