Two situations have come up for me in the last week involving kneeling vs. standing during the consecration. I would like some advice from other posters on these specific situations, plus on a third from my wedding which was not as recent:
We went to mass at a beautiful church pilgrimage site, and noticed that there were no kneelers in the pews. Almost everybody remained standing but we kneeled down during the consecration. Was it wrong to make ourselves different from the rest of the congregation like that?
A priest said a special teaching mass for a group of about 50 people, and invited us all to sit in the sanctuary instead of in the pews. Before the consecration, he explained that normally we kneel for the consecration, but that since there wasn’t any room, it was impractical for us to kneel, and it is more important that we all do the same thing. (We were sitting on chairs and it would have been quite a commotion for everyone to kneel down, involving moving chairs around etc.) I found it frustrating to be told not to kneel, but I obeyed, even though my conscience bothered me. Was it a sin to stand during the consecration?
At my wedding, it didn’t occur to me until the ceremony was under way that kneeling for communion could be a big problem my bride and her wedding party due to their dresses. So we all remained standing even during the consecration. I felt really guilty but didn’t think it would be right to kneel when my bride was standing. Was this correct?
Thank you for your advice. I don’t have any strong opinion on this question and am just looking for what people think.