[quote="chief714, post:1, topic:239882"]
I have to make this brief because I'm at work so here it is.
I'm remarried through the church. My previous marriage was an illicit marriage which my 2 teenagers come from. My ex wife is COMPLETELY against the Catholic church. I can't express that enough. She constantly curses our son and calls him worthless, loser, failure and many other things that are a lot worse. Our son has rebelled at one point smoking weed, breaking into deserted motels, etc. We started walking in the Neocatechuminal way and he's made huge changes.... however lately he's been falling off on his grades and responsibilities. It almost seems like depression.
His mother is taking me back to court for custody even tho he'll be 17 in 1 month. She wants to force him into military school.
Sigh... I'm looking for some kind of Teenage Catholic Retreat for troubled youth's. I live in California and just curious if anyone can point me in the right direction.
Also, please pray for my son Anthony. I worry about him alot.
Thank you & God Bless
Christ is Risen!
Why don't you and your son do some family therapy? Sounds like he's got more than enough reason to be angry and hurt, since his parents are divorced. I am glad that you, his dad, have custody of him. Will he talk to you? Have you asked him what is going on with him? Does he have a social life, a girlfriend, a part-time job, a hobby?
I would not advise out of home placement in any way. He needs you, his father, to help him work through this. Get him some help, get him involved in male activities, take him fishing, hunting, bowling, whatever you can do just to spend more time with him. If he wants to be with friends, take all of them out. Just hang with him whenever and however you can. Talk to him, and encourage him to talk to you. Listen to him. Praise him for whatever you can. DO NOT, and I repeat DO NOT get into the negative cycle of criticize-fail-more criticism-more failure, etc. that happens when teenagers screw up big time.
If your son were truly rebellious, he wouldn't have responded to ...what did you call it? Neocatechumen? I don't know what that is, is it a program at your church? Did something happen at your home or at school that might have caused him to slip back into the bad behavior? You have to be honest with yourself and see your part in things. Does he get along with your wife?
I just think a counselor might be able to address the issues better than any stranger in a retreat. Trust me, he needs his dad. If your wife does go to court to try and get custody, if you and he are in counseling then the judge is a lot less likely to think you are not doing your job.
St. Joseph, help this father to reach his son's heart and help him in whatever way is needed. Jesus, you know the purpose that you have set out for this young man, please help his father guide him safely toward that purpose. Amen.