Again, I have only completed RCIA a short time ago and I don’t presume to know everything but from my experience the saying “mystery of God” only means that person you are asking doesn’t know the answer. PLEASE NOTE, I am not intentionally implying anything others than my observation from my own personal journey to become a Catholic. The saying “mystery of God” was used so often in my journey along with “I will pray for you” and “you should pray about it” as I asked questions. After reading your post I realize that word means something completely different to you than me.
I have read all the comments above and realizing some people are separating out the verb, the actual verb of reconciliation and telling me that word only requires one part and other parts are not necessary. In theory you should do more but not necessary to fulfill the meaning of that one word. Again, because of my lack of knowledge this is the way it seems to be explained to me.
I realize I am not being very specific with what was said and honestly we were just having a discussion in private about faith and I am hearing a personal admission of guilt from their past and how this person dealt with it through reconciliation. Then I heard, “I don’t need to ask for forgiveness from others, God has forgiven me.” These words rang so loudly and repeatedly in my mind it shook my very being with disgust and dismay for the lack of care and empathy for their victim.
I do appreciate all the comments above and really I am teetering on the Catholic view of what Reconciliation means. If most Catholics view this action as a pass for their sins than it troubles me.