What is your experience with this sacrament?
It is one of the greatest treasures of my Catholic faith. I absolutely love it!
Do you go to Confession?
Every week or two. Sometimes sooner if something is weighing on my conscience.
Do you go to individual confession, or to communal Reconciliation services?
Individual confession. If you go to a communal Reconciliation service, it still includes (or should include) individual confession. General absolution without individual confession is forbidden except in emergency situations (e.g., when the ship is sinking, etc.), and must be followed by individual confession as soon as possible (it’s like an “IOU”).
How do you choose a confessor?
I start by going to Mass a few times, seeing how reverently a priest offers Mass, how holy is his preaching, whether he seems to value the Sacrament of Reconciliation, whether he seems to be faithful to the teachings of the Church. I go to confession to him once or twice, and if he gives me wise advice that helps me overcome sinful habits, I stick with him. If he tries to tell me something is not a sin when I know in fact that it is, I move on.
In your experience, is it best to go to the same confessor?
Yes, absolutely, if he is a good one. It’s like going to the same doctor each time you get sick; they get to know your history and can help you better.
Do you have any advice to share with someone who’s “rusty” with this sacrament?
Just do it! Tell the priest it has been a while, and he will help you. If you think it will take you more than a few minutes, make an appointment with the priest so you will not have to be nervous about making other people in line wait.