Recurrent miscarriages


#1

I will try and keep this short and sweet. I was not always Catholic, and had my tubes tied after having 5 kids with my first husband. When I remarried a Catholic I converted and had a tubal reversal. Since then we have had 7 early miscarriages. In three years. I am wiped, emotionally and physically. I just recently had that 7th miscarriage (Valentine’s day) and I am honestly seriously done with this. I cannot keep this up. My blood pressure is now through the roof,(gets worse with every miscarriage) and I am battling a depression that I would not wish on my worst enemy.

I feel like I am no longer open to life, this feels much more like purpose allowing babies to be created and then my body kills them.

Medical tests have revealed nothing. I feel like I am the abortaficient. Artificial birth control is beginning to sound like a good idea. I know it is not. I do. But I am not a receptive vessel for these babies and ABC feels like a lesser evil.

Can anyone relate?


#2

Wow. I couldn’t imagine having 7 miscarriages. I am so sorry that you had to endure that pain.

Have you considered NFP?


#3

I just wanted to tell you how sorry I am to hear about your losses.
My prayers are with you and your family.

Please see if you could contact a pro-life dr. preferably a NFP only dr.

I just suffered 2 back to back miscarriages, the first time I saw an OB/GYN that couldn’t even look at me in the eye to tell me the baby wasn’t ok.

The second time, I went to a NFP only dr. And, if anything, just the caring way he and his partner and the staff treated me was worth it.

I can understand the feeling you have, wanting to be open to life, yet the babies don’t make it. I could almost want to be infertile. I’m afraid to try again. So I understand some of what you are feeling.

Please don’t think you have done anything wrong, or think that " I am the abortaficient." You didn’t do anything to harm your babies. None of this is your fault.

You’ll be in my prayers,


#4

have they ever kept up with your progesterone levels during the pregnancies? I have no idea what caused my miscarriage, but my best friends miscarried a few times because her body wasn’t making enough hormones and needed to take progesterone supplements.


#5

I was on progesterone supplements for 4 of the 7 miscarriages…


#6

I’m so sorry you are going through this :frowning:


#7

I feel your pain. I had a miscarriage about 2 yrs ago, that was the most painful time for me emotional and physicaly. I feel that it is not time for me. I don’t have any children, I am a auntie of a beautiful 7 y/o niece and my nefrew just turned 6 and I also have 2 god son’s and I will be bapitizing another boy. So even though I don’t have my own I will have them. At least you have 5 kids, but I know that it still hurts because of the lost. I will pray for you and your family.

God Bless,

Gladys

:crossrc:


#8

& in a row is A LOT after a reversal…so much I’m thinking something else is wrong: how old are you and your dh? Have you been tested for chromosomal abnormalities (the fetus sometimes gets checked for that after recurrent miscarriages, but they can also do tests in you both), because it could simply be that with THIS husband, the fetus that is conceived has a chromosomal abnormality that is ‘incompatible with life’ (horrible word, basically means you’ll either miscarry or give birth to a stillborn baby/baby dies within hours/days of giving birth). Trisomy 18 is a well-known one…but there are literally hundreds, and the ‘risk’ goes up with your age, and in some cases if you’re both ‘carriers’ of certain chromosomal abnormalities it could mean that you have a very high risk of miscarriage because of this…If that is the case, you could consider NFP. But really, have it checked out…

Another possible cause could be that the reversal has caused tissue growth in your womb, stopping the fetus from implanting successfully. I had that after my first daughter was born, and they needed to scrape my womb ‘clean’ from extra tissue growths, and after that the next pregnancy was successful!

Prayers you find your answers!

Anna x


#9

Contact www.popepaulvi.com for consultation on your situation.


#10

What tests have you had done? There are a couple of clotting issues that can cause recurrent miscarriage, one is genetic blood factors like Factor V (five) Leiden that causes blood clots in the placenta. I have this, so I have to take heparin (blood thinner) shots twice a day my entire pregnancy. I have a friend who had a disorder called antiphospholipid syndrome, and she had I think 6 miscarriages before she was diagnosed. Her treatment was the same–heparin shots. She also went on to have a healthy pregnancy while on heparin. So if you haven’t been tested for either of these problems, you may want to be. I know 2 little girls, mine and my friend’s, who wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for finally getting a correct diagnosis and treatment with blood thinners.


#11

We had a complete miscarriage workup, including karotyping and tests for chromosomal abnormalities. I had a saline untrasound to check on any uterine abnormalities. They checked my thyroid, hormones, name it and it was done, more than once even. I think that is what frustrates me the most, that there is nothing else to test for, it has all been done.

My husband is 33 and I am now 38, almost 39. I had my reversal done when I was 35.


#12

That could be a factor. Miscarriage risk increases significantly after 35.


#13

This is something that must be handled by a specialist in difficult pregnancies.
My sister-in-law had what was described at the time as an “incompetent” cervix. It would dilate long before the third trimester and she would lose the baby. She finally went to a specialist in difficult pregnancies and he tied shut the cervix. Late in the pregnancy the stitching was removed so that she could have a natural childbirth. Worked for her. She had four children after that.
I have no idea what the current treatment options might be. That’s why you need someone who specializes in *difficult *pregnancies.

Matthew


#14

Wait…they can reverse that? I though most female sterilization procedures actually cauterized ie burned the tubes beyond repair?
Or maybe you got yours done back when women still got their tubes literally tied


#15

Even cauterized tubes can be repaired, if enough tube is left. Depends how the doctor does it. If they cauterize only one small place, there usually is enough tube left for a reversal. If they cauterize two or three places, then usually it cannot be reversed.

I was told by a GYN that it’s not the technique, it’s how much undamaged tube is left that affects reversal possibility.

OP, I am so sorry! I had 2 miscarriages followed by a healthy pregnancy. I had had 4 healthy pregnancies before the MCs. It is SO painful to think of those little souls dying inside you! I can understand why you are not wanting to get pregnant anymore. I will pray for you.


#16

I am SO sorry to hear of your miscarriages ( all of them saints in heaven ).


#17

I am soooo sorry!!! I just lost my first and only child 3 months ago and it has been the most devastating thing that has ever happened to me. I can’t imagine what you must feel after 7 losses. :frowning:

I don’t know what to say except for that you are in my prayers. Nothing that I say could help you since I have very little experience with these things. I don’t even know why my baby died…

Anywho, don’t blame yourself, don’t blame your body… maybe there were chromosomal defects the babies had, maybe they didn’t form right. It isn’t your fault at all.


#18

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