I went to confession around the beginning of Lent, and the penance the priest gave me was to look at a crucifix every day during Lent and thank God for his mercy and forgiveness. I thought of asking him if he would be all right with assigning me a different penance, since I have a bad memory and knew I'd probably forget. However, I didn't.
Over the next few weeks, I forgot to do this for days at a time. I could have written myself a reminder, but I didn't. I honestly didn't make much of an effort at all to remember to say my penance.
What I'm struggling with is whether this would be considered as "refusing to do an assigned penance." I know I "intended to forget," if that makes sense - I knew I'd forget, and didn't plan on doing anything about it. I think I also intended not to do it at all, making some kind of excuse.
I've gone to confession numerous times since then, and confessed this, but I'm concerned that that first confession was bad, and therefore subsequent ones were as well. The problem is that I deal with scrupulosity, and the four or five confessions since then have been quite long. If I were to go back and confess everything, it would take forever.
I just feel stuck, and I'm just not sure what to do. I feel like this was probably a bad confession, but it's practically impossible for me to go back and confess everything since that confession. Could I hand the priest a list? Does anyone have any suggestions?