I’d like to ask the members of this forum to pray for myself and an ex-girlfriend.
We knew each other for about 3.5 years. Out of that time, we dated for 3 years.
We broke up about a week before Christmas, after we had been fighting A LOT for a few months. Some of it my fault, some of it hers. However, we both said some awful, terrible things to each other and emotionally hurt each other deeply.
I am also ashamed that although we started the relationship as Catholics, eventually, we gave in to our temptations and began having sex regularly. We never stopped believing in God, but soon, mass attendance declined, and the only time we prayed was before meals.
After much reflection, I have started to return to the Church, the rosay and prayer. The first time I went into a church in over a year and began praying, I was almost on the verge of crying because I was so ashamed, but also grateful that I had been granted the opportunity to returning and a chance at forgiveness.
However, since the break up, my ex has started to drink constantly, smokes weed, and hangs out with the wrong crowd who also encourages such behaviour.
She has also started a sexual fling with someone else I’ve heard bad things about, and is interested in guys I know who encourage this behaviour. It also doesn’t help that her job can be extremely stressful.
According to some mutual friends, she has become increasingly negative, selfish and is constantly snapping at them and insensitive to their feelings. I feel like the person I fell for 3 years ago is gone.
Although our relationship is gone, I still care about her well being and wish her the best. I really fear that her destructive, anti-social behaviour and new crowd might lead her back to a dark place she previously was in her life: depressed, suicidal, anti-social, promiscuous.
Please, pray for myself and this person. *
It breaks my heart to hear these stories about her, because I know the person she once was, and despite who she has recently become, I believe she can return to her old self.
Also pray that she will accept my apologies for the mean behaviour I showed her. When I tried to apologize for things I did, she reacted very negatively and angrily towards me, making false accusations about my intentions.
*Pray that she realizes that I truly forgive her for the hurt she caused me and am sorry for the hurt I caused her.
Pray that she realizes that there are genuine, good people out there who care about her well being.
Pray that she will find true happiness and return to God.
Pray that both of us will be able to control our emotions and tempers that distanced us from each other and from friends.
Pray that we can forgive each other for the hurt we caused each other, and root out any negativity and anger that blocks God’s mercy from entering our hearts.
Pray that we will be given the light to see ourselves and each other as we really are, as who we can be, and who we once were.
Pray that during this time, God and his angels will protect us from evil, temptation, and the false pleasures of hedonism, that we can find true good in this life and open our hearts to others and to God’s love.
And finally, please *pray that one day, my ex-girlfriend and I will no longer have any negativity or anger towards the other person.
Pray that one day, we can be civil to each other without hurting each other, that we can one day be friendly and respectful to each other.
Please pray that a friendship or mutual respect between us can enter our lives and hearts one day, absent of negative or hurtful thoughts and comments.*
And please* pray that God will enter our lives and show us true happiness, the way to the sacraments, that our sins will be forgiven. Help us learn to forgive each other.*