Hey all. This is my first post on here, so sorry if its not in the right section. But basically, I need relationship advice. Im a 20 year old college sophomore. 3 years ago, I met this wonderful girl at my job and we became friends. a year later, I asked her on a date and from there a 2 &1/2 relationship blossomed. Not to say that there weren’t issues: we did cut it off a couple times, mostly because I was selfish and wanted to see other people, which she did too. But we always ended up getting back together. I found out early on she wasn’t Catholic, but since she was my first steady relationship, I didn’t give much thought to that fact because I didn’t know what to look for in a good future wife.
All was well, until about a year into our relationship when I started to become sexually “tense”, probably from dating for a while and not being able to get married yet and 'let it out". As a result, I fell into the sins of masturbation and pornography, which im still battling to this day, but am improving at greatly. These sins made me incredibly selfish and self centered though, as you can imagine, and I started making our relationship revolve around me and my wants. I even started asking my girlfriend to do impure acts with me, which she didn’t want to do, but we sometimes did do them. She eventually converted to the Faith, although this made me uneasy because I was afraid she did it just for me. Eventually, strengthened by the Faith and fear of going to confession and having to say that stuff, my girlfriend refused to do impure acts and this caused a lot of fighting. I even contacted an ex girlfriend and visited her, having bad intentions, but nothing came of it thank God. I felt great remorse and told my girlfriend the next day and she forgave me. However, she began to become unhappy and I didn’t notice because the world revolved around me, me, me. She eventually disclosed to me that she no longer had the desire to kiss me, but was still physically attracted to me.
I didn’t see the warning signs still. a couple of days ago, she broke up with me, for good she says, because she said lied to me. she mostly became Catholic for me and said it wasn’t “for her,” She also said that a week ago, she visited a guys house and was kissing him, and hid this from me for a week. she told me she needs to be alone and find herself. so my question is, what do I do? I thought she was the one and we talked about getting engaged soon, but now this. my family tells me to move on because if she cheated, then she’d do it again and doesn’t care about me, but I did the same thing without the physical stuff. She has never cheated on boyfriends in the past, but im still not sure if I can trust her yet. Ive been giving her room and haven’t contacted her, but im scared. Should I pursue her still, or move on? thanks for your help and time