Relationship Advice


#1

Hello, I am wondering what relationship advice you guys might offer an early twenties college student who has been in a relationship for a year and a half. I’ll give you the basics: The first few months were amazing. It is a long-distance relationship, so we got to know each other really well without the physical distractions. Then we started arguing alot. Our arguments never last more than a few hours and I can only remember once going to bed without solving the issue. It seems like we argue all the time, about little things and big things too. I tend to be very dramatic, so especially when I am tired, things blow up quickly. I will tell my best friend and/or mom, and I always find myself excusing his behavior, excusing why he hurt my feelings, or excusing whatever it was that he said. Every once in a while one or the other will try to break up, but somehow (probably God’s graces???) we are given the patience and the love to talk the other person out of a breakup. Here’s the problem: I love him very much, but I’m getting tired of the fighting. I’m tired of excusing him to my family and friends, and I’m tired of the distance. I know if we break up, I will be broken for months, at least, and I know he will too (as well as both our families). I don’t know what to do anymore and the more I pray, it seems the longer we stay together, it just doesn’t make sense that I’ve become tired of it all. Please help me.


#2

It appears the two of you are deeply incompatible as life partners. No harm, no foul. Move on and free both of yourselves to find a life partner they are compatible with.

Sometimes people get the notion that it is noble to suffer through a bad relationship and muscle on. While that may be true in marriage, during dating it is QUITE another matter.

The purpose of dating is to discern if a couple is marriage material. There is no requirement to hang in there when it becomes clear that things aren’t right.

You are young and free, don’t harness yourself to a lifetime of arguments and regrets.

You can love a person truly and deeply and realize they are not your life partner.

I love many of my friends, male and female but know we are never meant to be partners.

Don’t let romance or sexual attraction blind you. I also don’t believe there is only one person out there who we can love or be loved by. You are cutting yourself and him from the freedom to find a good match.


#3

What the above poster said, but I will add, lose the drama. Drama is a sign of emotional immaturity. Emotional maturity is essential in all forms of relationships.


#4

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