I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years. We are both working to grow our faith together. Our relationship has not been an easy one, we have always persisted and worked together to overcome our issues. We have embraced a life of chastity, and have started together a youth prayer group at our parish.
The problem at hand is that we have constantly been quarreling over the past month or so. The issues are insignificant and in hindsight we always realise that we can prevent these arguments by being more patient and understanding of one another.
But it just keeps happening. Something in our mannerisms, tone of voice, the words we choose - whatever - seems to annoy/anger the other person and we end up in an argument.
It’s gotten to the point where he’s exhausted and I completely understand why. The past few weeks I’ve tried my best to cheer him up when he’s down after another argument, and he’s done the same for me. I know him well enough to know that he doesn’t want to give up, but he’s just tired of being constantly unhappy, and wondering if we’re going to fight again today. I know that I could keep going at it until it gets better, but I don’t think that’s the wisest thing to do.
We love each other and know that we want to get married. At the present moment, however, the relationship is draining the both of us. He’s always been very busy with work and studies, and I know this issue is difficult for him to handle on top of everything.
I’m sorry it’s such a long post, but I suppose the real question is this: Do you think it’s suitable to suggest that we take a break from the relationship? I’ve always heard that “a break leads to a break up” and that “if you need to take a break, there is no relationship”. Is that necessarily the case/is it worth the risk?
If so, what’s a good way of going about it? Are there some ground rules we should set? How should we discuss it together?
Thanks in advance!