Relationship/Faith Advice and Prayers Needed!


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This is my first post, so I don't know if I'm doing this right.

Recently I have been struggling with the thought of never finding a future spouse. I know this is somewhat common, but I could definitely use some advice, comments, prayers, ect. Here’s my situation: I am in my early twenties and I have always left finding true love in God’s hands, but as I am getting older I feel like my chances are getting slimmer by the day. I attend a college where the main concern for the students is getting drunk at parties and hooking up with the prettiest girl or most handsome guy at parties, which is absolutely not the type of lifestyle I consider myself to be a part of. I am the total opposite, a non-drinker/non-partier (that is when it comes to people becoming totally wasted) and before moving to college I would enjoy sitting in adoration with the Blessed Sacrament every day, but now my faith just seems to be lessening. The very small percentage of student population who are faithful Catholics has also weakened my drive to grow further in my faith. At times it has been difficult seeing my friends date and talk about marriage when I have never been in a relationship or even on a date before. I think about how nice it would be to save myself and maybe even my first kiss for my husband on our wedding day, but in today’s society it is hard to remain strong in my faith and believe there is a guy out there who is willing to do the same for his future wife. Sometimes I believe it is crazy for wanting to save my first kiss for my wedding day…would a guy really respect that or would they be drawn away because of it? I just wonder sometimes, will I find that guy who will be my best friend, who will help me grow in my faith just as much as I can help him, who would not mind spending an evening in adoration, and who would build upon our relationship with God in the center?


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Recently I have been struggling with the thought of never finding a future spouse. I know this is somewhat common, but I could definitely use some advice, comments, prayers, ect. Here’s my situation: I am in my early twenties and I have always left finding true love in God’s hands, but as I am getting older I feel like my chances are getting slimmer by the day

You said it yourself; you are in your early twenties; you are certainly not in a position to be worrying about "getting older" just yet... That said however; it is one thing to trust in God - but think of it this way; even though Jesus multiplied the fish many times; it was ultimately the disciples who had to go fishing for it in the first place! So; likewise you must be active yourself; and have faith that God will support and assist you; but he certainly doesn't do all the work!

I attend a college where the main concern for the students is getting drunk at parties and hooking up with the prettiest girl or most handsome guy at parties, which is absolutely not the type of lifestyle I consider myself to be a part of.

That's very sensible. You go to college to learn; not to party; socialise or to "make friends". Far too many people have the wrong perspective on universities. It is good that you have a more well adjusted understanding of their function. However; this does invite the question - if you are still yet at college; why are you fretting about getting married; is is not unlikely you would want to graduate before that - and particularily before having children?

I would enjoy sitting in adoration with the Blessed Sacrament every day, but now my faith just seems to be lessening. The very small percentage of student population who are faithful Catholics has also weakened my drive to grow further in my faith.

What other people do is their business. Do not let the lack of faith of other's damage your faith. I am the only man who is younger than eighty who attends weekday masses at my local church - this does not diminish what I do in any way; in fact in some ways it makes me more happy with myself; although that would certainly not be my humility talking.

At times it has been difficult seeing my friends date and talk about marriage when I have never been in a relationship or even on a date before.

There is nothing wrong with not having relationships or dates before you are able to marry. I would never consider even asking for a date until I had acheived financial independance; it would just be wasting both parties time.

Sometimes I believe it is crazy for wanting to save my first kiss for my wedding day…would a guy really respect that or would they be drawn away because of it?

Who can generalise? Certainly some guys might be put off by that. I certainly could not say I would; for that would be hypocritical.

I just wonder sometimes, will I find that guy who will be my best friend, who will help me grow in my faith just as much as I can help him, who would not mind spending an evening in adoration, and who would build upon our relationship with God in the center?

You are still young; and yet for a person in their early twenties you are certainly more in tune than many - you seem to grasp that God is the centre of marraiges; the value of adoration and so on and so forth.

Remember James 4.2 *yet ye have not, because ye ask not. *

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#3

Pax, Faith!

We find ourselves in some of the same situations. Like JD said, we are both young and still growing in our relationship with Jesus. I also come from a school with a small Catholic student population. Yeah, it's disheartening, but we must ask ourselves, what are we doing to change this? Perhaps you could invite friends to Mass or start a Bible study. Also, I admire your morals. I would say that I warn about saving the whole first kiss thing. While you should save your virginity, not kissing may put extra pressure when you begin a relationship. Some could argue that would be why you are waiting to get married- for solely the physical aspect of marriage. It's a very romantic idea though. Just a few thoughts. Hope they help. God bless!


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