I have been with my girlfriend for over two years. I came back to the Catholic Church about 5 or 6 months ago. She has been open to practice a chaste relationship and it really has helped me to love her in new ways. I feel like it has done the opposite for her. She accepted it in our relationship but not in her heart. I feel like she holds a grudge against me. Recently we have been arguing a lot about our future. She wants to go back on “the pill” if we are to get married while I want to practice NFP. I have shown her multiple sources about how bad the pill is for her body and why it is better for a married couple to practice NFP.
I try not to be pushy but she takes offense to a lot of the things I say. My campus minister once told me “your not a good minister if you never offend anyone.” I can see why this is true but its difficult when your in such a loving relationship. Sometimes I feel like I should let her go so that she can see how shallow and loveless most of our culture is. I don’t mean to say this pridefully since I know there are plenty of men better than me, and if she finds one of them maybe she will be more accepting to him than to me, and I think I would be okay with that. I just dont want her to fall back into the sinful autonomous culture we live in today.
Has anyone been in a similar situation with a relationship. How can I help guide her to the truth without being pushy or offending her. I am very argumentative by nature unfortunately so I do try hard to stay cool when we discuss things, but even when I am at my most calm levels she still gets offended and finds away to initiate an argument. Please pray for us and that we may find and follow God’s plan for our future, and any suggestions would be greatly appreciated… thanks!!!