I have recently returned to the church. Recently as in, this year. My girlfriend and I have now been going out for almost 2 years. When we first got together, she wasn’t really anything (agnostic I guess) and I was a non-practising Catholic. Since then, my girlfriend became a Presbyterian (something I was happy for at the time) and then a few months later (once I heard the outrageous claims made against my childhood church, and decided to look into it), I became a practising Catholic. I’m not confirmed yet, but I’m looking into it, and will get it done soon (probably this next Easter).
Now, my girlfriend is reading Catholicism and Fundamentalism at the moment, and has come to the conclusion that the Bible is not enough. So she’s not really a Protestant anymore, but she’s not a Catholic yet either. She doesn’t really know where she belongs, which must be very difficult!
My question is about sexual stuff. We stopped most of our sexual immorality a long time ago (and I’ve gone to confession about it and so forth), but one thing that we didn’t stop was sleeping in the same bed. Now at confession yesterday I asked my priest about this. Basically his response was that the Church teaches that this is a sin, or something along those lines (I can’t remember his exact words). So I told my girlfriend that I can no longer share her bed, and this really upset her. What I would like would be for someone to give me some kind of explanation behind this rule (not sure if this is the right word). If I have a good explanation, then it will be easier for me to deal with this issue, as my girlfriend always wants to know “why” something is at it is, especially in terms of doctrine.
Also, are there any good resources on how a young Catholic couple should behave before they are married? Please realise that I do not willingly go against the teachings of the Church. I think that if somebody is a Catholic then he should fully adhere to the teachings of the Church, but sometimes it is a difficult thing to know what these teachings are. Also even when you do know the teachings of the Church, sometimes it is hard to come around and follow them, but I try my best!