Hello, guys. I am in the process of getting married, and me and my catholic fiancée are soon to be finished with marriage preparation classes. However, I do still have some concerns. These concerns relates to religious issues. Over the last couple of months, I have tried to learn about Catholicism, but this seems counterproductive. Let me explain how that is. Before I began this learning-process, my views about Catholicism were largely neutral. I didn’t know much, and I didn’t have much of an opinion either way. As I read, I find myself getting discouraged. My views seems to become negative more than positive.
I can see positives in some of the cultural and social aspects of the religion, but intellectually I find it dissatisfying. This should probably not come as a surprise, seen as I am agnostic, but there is a difference between encountering a belief-system that doesn’t describe reality and life in a satisfying way, and encountering a belief-system I find to make little sense on its own merit. For different reasons, I do not think these issues have important practical consequences for our relationship. For instance, we are able to agree on issues even though we are coming from different places. As an example: we are both on the political left, but we have different reasons (she: partly religion. Me: happiness economics). My recent concerns are not a deal-breakers for me. We have already agreed on how to deal with our difference in a practical sense, and I am still willing to stand by my compromises.
For those who have read some of my previous threads, you might remember that my fiancée has had issues with her faith. She lost her faith some time into our relationship, and didn’t take it well. She has since returned to the faith, but I think her faith is still somewhat unstable. My dilemma is this:
Should I shut up (risking issues further down the line), or should I voice my newfound concerns now? Based on non-catholic advice and my own thinking (I don’t really know any Catholics besides my fiancée), I am leaning towards keeping my mouth shut and just see how it plays out. Would you, as a Catholic, see my concerns as important, or would it not matter that much?