Religious Orders for Men

Hi all,

I posted a thread here recently but it got closed. I guess that was because you aren’t allowed to discuss the orthodoxy of religious orders on here. Fair enough, one must play by the rules.

So what I would like to ask for is recommendations and information regarding good religious orders for men. The charisms I am seeking in an order are: a large majority of members within the order are faithful to the teaching of the Church, they are striving to become saints, a love for Mary and the Eucharist, zeal for God, the Church and souls, and with a strong masculine identity. As I mentioned in my other thread, the charisms and spirituality of the early Jesuits particularly appeals to me.

All input appreciated! :slight_smile:

I highly recommend the Marian Fathers of the Immaculate Conception of the Blessed Virgin Mary.

Their U.S.A website is

I’m also fond of Order of the Blessed Virgin Mary of Mercy, better known as the Mercedarian Friars.

Their USA website is

If I were single and thinking about an Order, I would most likely consider one of these two.

Though the Dominicans are pretty good too (esp in the Northeast)

I very highly recommend Opus Dei prelature. My spiritual director is an Opus Dei priest and all the priests I know in Opus Dei are very orthodox and don’t water down any teachings of the Church…and very respectful of the liturgy. I hope this helps you. I will pray for you!

Im biased so I would say the Franciscans!

But another good order is the Priestly Fraternity of St.Peter (FSSP.) They are teaching the truth in a time where there is much confusion.

I was going to say the Marians in Stockbridge, MA and the Dominicans also.
Also, the Oblates of Mary Immaculate.

You can’t go wrong with the Benedictines! We have a monastery in my diocese and those guys are AWESOME! :highprayer:

As someone who was in your shoes over 3 years ago, I feel that you are going about this the wrong way. Have you - yourself discern as to what your own charisms are? - And how you can use that to further God’s work in this world by joining an Order.

You will hear a whole bunch of suggestions here, maybe from those who are now walking that path, but I surmise many will be second hand info and biases. The only way you can be sure as to where God is calling you to be is to actually visit and stay with the community. Only then will you find that ‘coming home’ experience many of us have felt and knew from our hearts that this is where we are suppose to be.

As far as your list: Are’nt all men called to this life suppose to exemplify those? The question is are you willing to struggle to exemplify those things you listed?

YES. I agree with this here 100%.

As for some of the other things the original poster addressed:

“a large majority of members within the order are faithful to the teaching of the Church”

  • This is and should be true with any community you look at. In fact it should be true of all Catholics, whether in religious life or not.

“they are striving to become saints”

  • Again, should be true of everyone.

“a love for Mary and the Eucharist”

  • Some communities do have more of an emphasis on Mary than others. Marians of the Immaculate Conception come to mind. You’ll find a strong devotion to Mary among many Franciscans as well, and the Oblates of the Virgin Mary, plenty of others too. Eucharist is and should be central to all of our lives, it is our “Source and summit” as they say.

“zeal for God, the Church and souls”

  • Becoming a Religious doesn’t happen by accident, anyone who chooses this way of life does so because of a zeal for God, the Church, and for Souls (and feeling of being called, among other things too). Its how that zeal is expressed that will be different in different communities (this is more or less what we mean by “charism” of a religious order…how that love for Christ is lived out) . Would you want to express that zeal in a more active or contemplative manner? combination of the two? If active, what sorts of ministries could you see yourself called to, and working with what types of people and in what circumstances? feeding homeless? educating high school students? College professor? University Chaplain? Parish priest? Social worker? Missionary? (the list is honestly endless…create your own ministry if you want) Where do you see yourself ministering? This could help us come up with some better suggestions a little easier. It’s also OK if you don’t have an answer yet… but it’s something to think about.

“and with a strong masculine identity”

  • I’m not really sure what is meant by this, sorry.

There are other communities who are not Jesuits who have an Ignatian (Jesuit) spirituality as a central part of their charism. I can’t recall them off-hand, but will try and find out and post again.

When it comes to a particular spirituality, yes, that’s a great place to start I think. But my advice is don’t make that the be-all and end-all. Spirituality is a very personal thing, and you’ll find Franciscans with a strong Ignatian Influence. You’ll also find Jesuits with a Franciscan influence (e.g. Pope Francis). So while the spirituality of a community IS very important, it doesn’t exclude you from making another a big part of your own life as well. I find the spirituality of the community kind of becomes the lens through which the others are viewed, if that makes any sense. This goes for devotions to Mary as well, make that part of your own charism, and take it with you wherever you go.

As HumbledSinner pointed out, visit communities, and see how it goes, it’s really the only way to do it. I really can’t stress that point enough. You may visit a Trappist monastery or Dominican Priory and realize that is “home”. You honestly won’t know until you go visit communities.

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