[quote="Catholic90, post:16, topic:271522"]
^^this times 10.
Your daughters lost their mother.
Now they are losing their childhood home, and the home where they remember their mom. I am sure each has special memories of her in various parts of the house.
Next they are "losing" their father to his new wife in Texas.
These are MAJOR stressors in their lives, and you CANNOT just say to the youngest, "You are almost an adult, so figure it out. Good luck."
You say she is rebelling - of COURSE she is rebelling! Everything she has ever known is ending. Her mom is gone, now her house is being sold, her high school career is almost over and you are leaving too. She is left with what? Nothing!
Have you ever gotten her in for grief counseling? She has an awful lot to deal with for a 17 year old.
What's done is done, but if I had been in your shoes, I would not have married until the youngest was graduated from high school and settled in her post-secondary school.
With one caveat, and that is that if the youngest stays on drugs, or returns to drugs, and still expects Daddy to support her, then he must cut her loose.
In my state, the parents are responsible for the child until at least the age of 18. And I do not think abandoning a girl of even 18 is a good idea. I still lived at home with my dad until I voluntarily moved out at age 19, to move in with a friend of my older sisters. They were roommates but my sister was so messy that she was driving her roommate nuts. We hit it off so well that I decided to be the roommate instead of my sister. I'm not sure I would have moved so early if not for that roommate. I was ready, but not to be on my own.
Parents do have an obligation to their almost-grown children. I'm sure the OP is tired of being a widower, and is looking forward to starting his new life, but he doesn't stop having children because he got married.
I also hope that his new wife doesn't have children who live close by...Thus making it seem as if Dad is choosing another family over his own daughters. It's all in the perception, really. And the intent.