the question is, who are we choosing when we know something is wrong but do it anyways?
we are commanded to love God above all else with all of our heart, mind, soul, and strength, and to love others as ourselves,
but what is it when we choose something mortally sinful on purpose? it’s not loving God, and it’s not loving your neighbor, and it’s not loving yourself…so what is it?..
the answer is, it is hating God and yourself and your neighbor…but most of all it’s hating God. and why? well, the same way love is in the will, so is hate,
true love is to will good to another, or to desire their good,
but hate is to will bad for another or to desire harm to them,
and in this case, to re-marry without an annulment, would be death to your soul for obvious reasons, and to your spouse for committing adultery, and for Christ it is great suffering, and great displeasure, not because of the physical pain caused by the blows and tearing of His flesh, but by the love for you, which caused Him the greatest suffering,
those who choose mortal sin on purpose do not love God, even if they say they love God or even “feel” an affection for Him…their actions speak louder than their words…you cannot commit a mortal sin purposefully and say “i love God”…
and if it’s that difficult for someone not to choose what they know is wrong, then they have far worse problems than their marriage situation(or lack there of) and they need to work on themselves first…
and can you really call it love when you want to marry someone after you’ve already been married? or what i mean to say is…can you really call it love when you know very well that you will be going to hell for it, and taking your spouse with you?
if you really loved them, you would want what is best for them, despite whether they care or not, you should care,
when your children don’t care if they get hurt jumping on their bed, would that be okay with you because they don’t care, or would you stop them because you don’t want them to get hurt?
when you love someone, all that matters is their well-being.
and as for yourself(not you, but an individual in general) if you don’t care if you go to hell for committing a mortal sin, then you do not love yourself, and if you do not love yourself, then there is no way that you truly love anyone else, it can only be an imperfect love, or a selfish love, but not true love, because true love is the love of God, or “charity”, which is the infused supernatural virtue by which a person loves God above all things for his own sake, and loves others for God’s sake…
as for the issue of being outcasts…or having to suffer through whatever entails such a circumstance…we should be reminded in such sufferings, that no one felt more outcast than Jesus Himself, and no one suffered more…
it seems rare in Catholics nowadays to look at these circumstances as coming from God, and as ultimately good for our souls when we accept and offer them up…
Jesus tells us, that if we wish to be His disciples, to deny ourselves, carry our cross, and follow Him…but where do we find that in today’s society, even among Catholics? we’re all to busy with this life and focused on our worldly cares, to see that spiritually we are starving, or even dead, and dangling over hell…it’s serious, life is so short, we are here to learn to love God, so that we will want to be with Him in heaven…God won’t force us into heaven, and we won’t want to go there if we don’t love God, because that is what heaven is - loving God,
Fulton J. Sheen said, that a sign of the church being in darkness, is when the cross is abandoned…and how very much that is true right now,
we need to get back on the straight and narrow path…we can’t sin just because we will suffer otherwise, there is no excuse, and the suffering that results from sin, either in this life or the next, is far greater than the suffering we feel from denying ourselves in our passions and desires…
i do feel pity for those who suffer, and even for those who sin through weakness, but not for those who sin on purpose…God is certainly displeased with us for sinning through weakness…but He can be even more displeased with a venial sin committed on purpose, than He would be with a mortal sin committed through weakness…
it has everything to do with love, and we must love God first and above all else.
i think it is good that you feel sympathy for those who suffer this way, it means that you care about them…but if you truly wish to love them, then you need to see past those feelings and emotions, and look into their soul, not judgmentally, but mercifully, and see the value and pricelessness of their immortal soul, and above all, see how God loves them, and wants them to be with Him and to be happy.
it’s not an easy thing to deny ourselves when we haven’t practiced mortification or studied our religion or all the other things we are called to do as Catholics, but there’s simply no excuse, we are called to love God, others, and ourselves, and we show whether we love or hate God, others, or ourselves, in our actions.
well, sorry if i made that a bit long, but i hope this helps, take care.