[quote=mwfields] She’s even thinking of having our two daughters wear head veils to begin to set an example…how we can begin to get people to be more respectful?
May I say with all due respect that, in my parish at least, wearing head veils would not be seen as “a model of respectful dress”, but as “you are hopelessly outdated” and your children would probably feel extremely conspicuous among their peers.
Head veils, to me, are associated with pre-Vatican II and makes a statement about traditionalism, not respectful dress. If traditionalism us your goal, fine, but if you are truly trying to encourage respectful dress, veils aren’t the way to go.
I agree there is a need for more respect for the church and we can model that by wearing respectful attire, not arriving late to Mass, not leaving early, and paying attention to (participating in) the Mass.
Just remember, though, everyone is not in the same place on their spiritual journey, and some people may not dress or act at Mass the way we would like because it is just not as important to them yet.
[quote=mwfields]She’d like to begin, in our parish, a program to help people take the Mass more seriously and come there more respectfully and more prepared.
But as people grow in holiness, they change and they become more respectful of the church. I think your wife’s program should focus on: not only how can we encourage respectful dress, but how can we encourage spiritual growth and holiness in our parish? Work on adult faith formation and spiritual growth, and respectful dress and attitude toward Mass will follow.