[quote="SwizzleStick, post:1, topic:253795"]
Someone is into genealogy. This someone has found the gravesite of an ancestor who has been dead nearly 100 years. Apparently, there is not much of a marker on the grave or it has deteriorated to such a point that she feels the stone needs to be replaced, so she has decided to purchase a new headstone. She has not asked for money for the stone, but she feels it is the responsibility and duty of family members who live in the same state to visit the gravesite and to be present for a ceremony when the new headstone is set. Neither she nor any living family members ever knew the deceased. Regardless, she thinks the deceased should be honored and respect should be shown by having descendants present for the ceremony. She is pleased with those who have shown interest in being present. She is disappointed and puzzled by those who are not enthusiastic or who have shown no interest in this project.
So, CAF, does anyone here have any opinions about this scenario that they would like to share? Is this interesting to contemplate or not? Discuss amongst yourselves, please.:)
I would do that, for some of my ancestors, if I could even find them. It is sometimes very difficult to locate graves - even 100 years ago, some people were buried on their own land, records have been lost, etc. - so finding a grave is rather exciting for those of us who love our family history. But I wouldn't ask anyone to attend who didn't want to be there. I have a couple of first cousins on my dad's side who are into genealogy (not geneOLogy, BTW) and so I would definitely contact them.
This relative needs to understand that family history does not interest most people. We historians should be content to know that someone in each generation gets the "bug" so our hard work won't be lost. Sometimes we get lucky and it's more than one person, but even if it's just one, we have to revel in that and keep plugging away.
Ask her to tell you about this relative whose grave it is. You might find some interest once you get to know the person better. She may have some really good stuff to share. Hopefully no scandals.