San Diego is having their Retrouvaille weekend this weekend and ending on Pentecost Sunday.
My wife and I are in serious need of this weekend. She has agreed to go ONLY because I asked her to go. She has made up her mind to leave after the weekend, but will still go. She says after 25 Years of marriage what would possibly change.
We had a long talk this evening and I am so discouraged I don't even feel like going now.
I have 3 older daughters 2 of which are telling Mom to divorce and the oldest saying work it out. I have 2 younger boys who are scared about the stability. We are still married and even now things are tearing us apart.
I was hoping that Retrouvaille weekend would put us back, but my wife is only going thru the motions. She isn;t interested in working things out. She wants to go her own way and is in love with another man that she had an affair with. It is over now, but she still loves him.
She says she is so sorry she is hurting me, but we just aren;t compatable and don;t have things in common. All this discouragement 2 days before the weekend.
She said it was up to me to go to the weekend and she would go, but she says it isn;t going to change things.
I am torn apart now not sure if I go and get my hopes up or just move on. If I go thinking that we will work it out and it doesn;t work, I have more hurt.
I have all but given up on this weekend now.