My wife and I have been separated for 5 months. She has filed for divorce and is wanting to get it completed as soon as possible. I have asked her to go to Retrouvaille in the past and she has refused. We have had little communication in the past 5 months. I do not want the divorce and will do whatever. We have the option of going to court which will be later next fall, going to mediation sometime next year or settling on everything now and getting it over with. We don't have children and the cost of going to court does not make a difference to me it is only money. I am not sure that there is any one else involved she says that there is not. She said that she simply does not love me and that is it. We have had our issues but nothing that I don't think we can get past.
We never tried counseling or anything. I simply came home one day and she said she wanted a divorce this was about one month after we decided that we were going to have kids. Three weeks later she moved out.
I recently told her that if she would go to Retrouvaille with me one the weekend and she felt the same that we would go without lawyers and she could have her divorce. I have read tons on Retrouvaille and how it has helped many couples. But for the most part they have to be willing to work on their marriage. I still believe that she has some desire to want the marriage she just feels trapped and does not see a way that it can work.
So my question for those that have been to Retrouvaille. Is this something that may help us? I know that it is not a cure all. It feels like I am manipulating my wife into going to the program and am not sure it is the right thing to do. I love my wife and will do anything possible to save my marriage.
She has tenatively agreed to the weekend but have not signed up yet as she has not fully committed. Also if we go when she does not want to go will it be something that she will resent me for going?
I read where most of the couples that went one of the spouses did not want to be there.