I am new to this website. I came about it while searching for information on adultery in a Catholic Marriage. I am impressed with what I have read on this forum and hope that someone can give me some advice. Just prior to Christmas, my husband was terminated from his job due to insubbordination & immorality. This was a result of a coworker filing sexual harrasment charges against him. As a result of this event, my husband confessed to me that during the past 13 years of our almost 20 year marriage (anniversary next week), he has had adulterous affairs with several women. I was completely blindsided by this revelation. During the past 20 years, I never doubted my husbands love of me and our two children. He has been a wonderful husband. Since his revelations, he has been very apologetic and remorseful but I have not been able to forgive him. We have been going to professional counseling but I feel his efforts have been minimal. I had to beg him to read a book our therapist suggested. He said he has learned his lesson and won’t cheat again. For the past three months I have tried to reconcile but the hurt seems unbearable. I don’t feel like I can ever trust him again and I don’t know how to get over this.
I have not disclosed this to my family or our priest. We are in the process of a short sale on our home and we have used all of our savings to get through the past 3 months. I work by my salary is a fraction of what his was. He has been unsuccessful in getting a new job. I feel like the walls are closing in.