Well, the sentiment of “never wearing that again” is exactly the sentiment my mother had. Exactly.
It is you, @stpurl, who chose the terms “traumatised” and “hostile”
I can’t speak for the person to whom you were writing…but I can speak for myself who lived through that era – that we have very happily moved beyond – thankfully.
My late mother was neither “traumatised” by what she wore in the era before the end of the 1960s nor was she “hostile” on account of it. But she saw it for exactly what it was…a mere societal convention. Needless and ridiculous in a new era.
She had worn pant-like outfits since the war, because of the work she did. She liked them. They suited her quite well. As time passed between 1940 and 1970, she was able to wear them more and more in a variety of settings and occasions. The fashions changed. The last place she wore a dress and hat was in church – and once the convention was done away with there, those outfits went to charity.
And she was glad to be liberated from prescriptions that imposed the need to wear a dress or a hat or gloves or carry a handbag in order to be a properly ensembled lady simply on account of societal convention.
It was a societal convention that held on in the Church longer than it did in the rest of society. And she would have said exactly “I will never wear again those dated outfits of the past.”
Just as women today do not wear Victorian mourning attire or hang the crepe – thanks be to God – nor do American women wear hoop skirts, like it was the 19th century.
We were all glad to be liberated of that silliness and to have the flexibilities of the new era.
My father and I similarly cast aside the hats that “gentlemen” were expected to wear, simply because that was what one was to do. They were a nuisance, actually. I still wear a hat, mind you…when it is cold, in the depth of winter, and I want to keep my head warm and I determine I need it – not because it is “supposed to be worn” to betoken my class or societal status.
And I would say the same thing about the attire and conventions of days past: “never again”.