[quote="Contra_Mundum, post:1, topic:287256"]
We get many threads where converts ask for advice on how to deal with friends and family who are against their decision to become Catholic.
But what about reverts? Were there obstacles for you? How did people react and how did you deal with negative attitudes?
Did you then find out who was praying for you while you were lapsed? ;)
After being very lapsed back in college and then a bit less so for several years after that, I've grown much stronger in my faith over the last few years. For some people, they insisted I was joking or making light of it until I practically hit them over the head to show them I was serious about it. Several others have gotten upset or angry about it, and some for different reasons. The bulk of the angry ones are very secular, selfish, immature and/or anti-religious. I've been mocked for going to Confession, despised for having too many kids, ridiculed for not running up tons of debt to bestow lavish Christmases on my family and cursed at for simply mentioning that I'd gone to Mass. One old friend very angrily told me that he couldn't believe I was forcing that **** on my kids when I told him I couldn't go out drinking with him the night before my one daughter's First Communion.
At the same time, I know a few self-proclaimed devout Catholics who are upset with me for taking things "too far." Being a faithful Catholic is okay as long as you don't mention reading religious books, watching religious movies and, whatever you do, don't even put the letters E, W, T and N together in the same sentence. An openness to life is fine as long as I don't mention it, or I at least agree that abortion's acceptable in certain circumstances. Being opposed to contraception is all well and good as long as I keep using it or get my wife or myself "fixed." Understanding the Church's teachings on homosexuality is great as long as I admit that there's nothing wrong with same-sex relationships and even "marriage." Giving our kids a good, moral upbringing is wonderful as long as we teach them to tell dirty jokes, let them watch vulgar shows and don't take them to Mass when they're too tired or just don't want to go. And whatever we do, we shouldn't talk about praying or admit we actually do it (especially something as radical as the Rosary), at least not in public where anyone can hear it.
With most people I just grin & bear it. With the ones who are a bit more religious than the rest, I'll challenge them when they tell me I'm wrong about certain things (like the friend who told me I was mistaken when I told her she was required to go to Confession at least once a year & that receiving Communion with a mortal sin on your conscience is also a mortal sin, or the one who told me that the Church has approved of artificial contraception since Vatican Council II). With a few of the others, I'll argue to a point, but then just let my actions speak for me. With the really nasty ones, we've decided to cut them out of our lives, although we had problems with them long before our "misguided" decision to grow stronger in our faith.