[quote=harmonious] Hi. I am a teenager, so please forgive me if my vocabulary and speech isn’t as… advanced as many of you.
You have expressed yourself quite well here, your speech is just fine.
[quote=harmonious] Recently, my mom has been reading this book which goes into the detail about the role of women in the Catholic faith.
Can you post the name and author? And, also, look inside the book and see if it has the phrases “Imprimatur” and/or “Nihil Obstat” on the title page. And, what year was this book published?
There are two separate issues here: necessity of working and view that work outside the home is never acceptable.
First, “necessary” can mean different things to different people. Is it strictly necessary, as in you could not pay the mortgage and would be homeless and starving, or is it “necessary” in the U.S. consumer society sense of the word? Your mom may not be wrong in thinking it is not necessary for her to work, that you could downsize your lives and be fine on one income. Many people who say “we could never live on one salary” really could if they economized and got off the “keeping up with the Joneses” train. But, that is a personal decision of each family.
However, the terms “regardless” and “ever” are troubling. The Church does not teach that women should never work. The work of raising up godly children should be primary where feasible. But, the Church recognizes that women do have to work-- when single, when two incomes are needed to make ends meet, and even when not strictly necessary.
Also, you are obviously older and not in need of full-time care. I don’t know the age of the youngest child in the house, but if the kids are all junior high and older, working at least part time if not full time poses no conflict with child care and rearing.
This is not Church teaching.
[quote=harmonious] Furthermore, she says the wife is suppose to be completely submissive to the husband, and that man and women are NOT equal. I was always under the impression that man and women were created equal.
This is not church teaching either.
[quote=harmonious] Also, I thought that the husband and wife are suppose to be in a marriage where they both make decisions, and work, TOGETHER, to achieving the success and support of the family?
Men and women are equal in dignity and in grace. They work together, yes. Fathers are called to be the spiritual head of the house as Christ is the head of the Church. This in no way means women are inferior to, or less than, men.
[quote=harmonious] I understand that the women’s role as a mother should be acknowledged the most, but is it not now different from the past since time’s have changed?
Now, here you go astray. God does not change. “Times have changed” does not change God’s plan for man and woman, and the Sacrament of Marriage. The ideal is to have mom at home, especially with young children, and this should not be viewed as “out moded” just because the secular culture preaches something very different-- women climbing the corporate ladder.
[quote=harmonious] Shouldn’t the mother be able to help support the family outside of the house as well as inside? Or, am I wrong in this thinking, and is my mom who is right in that women should not be working outside of the house WHATSOEVER?
You are both partially right. Your mom has it right regarding putting children and family first. She has it wrong that this needs to carry through when the children are older, and also that it is never acceptable for a woman to work. The church does not teach this.
[quote=harmonious] so if anyone could help me with any answers, it would be appreciated. BTW, sorry if this just sounds like I’m ranting.
I can suggest some reading, documents that are authentic Catholic teachings on the subject:
On The Family in the Modern World, by John Paul II
On The Dignity of Women, by John Paul II
On Cristian Marriage, Pope Pius XI