[quote="SurfN4Him, post:1, topic:250565"]
Dear Friend's in Christ,
I have been faced with a situation that is growing heavy on my heart. I am looking for updated information/advice on a Roman Catholic marrying a Christian.
I have been dating my girlfriend (Mary) for little over two years now and we have greatly fallen in love with eachother. We have recently been trying to grow our relationship stronger by putting Christ first in everything we do in our relationship. One major issue though we still come back to is I am a practicing Roman Catholic and she is a non-denominational Christian. I have spoken to Mary many times about my church and what it means to me and she respects everything I do and stand for in my Catholic faith. She has no interest at this time in converting but wants to find a non-denominational church we can both attend on Sundays. I told her that I would be open to the idea of finding a church with her to go to on Sundays together but I would still up hold my obligation to the Catholic church and attend my own church too on Sundays. I have been a Catholic all my life and went to Catholic school and high school. I am twenty-six now and currently looking to propose to my girlfriend very soon.
So my question(s) is, what type of procedures with the Catholic church do I have to go through to make sure my marriage if official with the Roman Catholic church? Also, I have read other places that I must promise to raise my children in the Catholic church. Is this true? My girlfriend has no intentions of raising our children in the Catholic church but still wants them to grow in Christian values.
I know of many marriages that have worked with one being a Catholic and one a non-Catholic but it is not easy. I feel that God is calling me to marry my girlfriend and I pray maybe one day she will open her eyes to the true church but I will not try and pressure her into converting.
Any advice or teachings would be greatly appreciated.
I am saying things, no matter they are good or not.
It is up to you to profit from them or throw them away.
If your girlfriend wants to find a common denominator, and as she proposes none, why does not she come to the Catholic Church (CC) with you? Unless she hates the CC, she could come and it would save time for everyone. And, thinking well, she will find in the Catholic Church what she may find in another Church, maybe the sermon is not so long, maybe you do not sing so much, but otherwise, it is the same.
As for raising the children, of course it is not up to her to raise the children catholicatllly but up to you.
My marriage suffered some of your problems though we were both catholic. I would say that you must be very patient, see that she feels comfortable inside the Mass, please her and do all her wills regarding timetable or if she prefers that or this catholic priest, this or that catholic mass, and you must solve theoretically all her problems.
When she gets used to go the Catholic Mass, it will be easier. I would say do not force her to do anything, just please her when she does what you want.
Step by step and do not foresee much further in the future.
My Personal Opinion