Hi all! So I am in a bit of a moral dilemma.
I will be rooming with two other guys next semester. I am also a male. They are the two of my best friends I can have. But when it comes to many moral beliefs, there is nothing more we can disagree on. This is especially true in terms of sexual ethics.
In discussing ground rules for next year, a few questions I am conflicted about came up. One was about cohabitating. It was asked if we would be comfortable with any of our girlfriends staying overnight. I said I am not comfortable, but that I could compromise if they stayed in the living room. Thing is, I know that if these guys’ girlfriends sleep over, they will likely fall asleep together. I don’t like it, but I felt I could compromise. Is it wrong to encourage such sinful behavior?
Further yet, the question of sex came up. Generally, it sounds like they both are fine with sex in the room, as long as whoever is about to have sex lets the other two know somehow to avoid awkward interruptions. I, on the other hand, said I am against this on that grounds that it is uncomfortable for me to have that going on in our room. I also told them that, as a Catholic who is completely against premarital sex, it would feel like giving them liscense to do something evil, which would weigh on my conscience. I am not so sure they understand how I can be so serious about my sexual ethics, as they both have a somewhat relatvistic worldview. We didn’t come to a conclusion before our conversation ended.
I know that we are all adults and can make our own decisions, but allowing sex is just one of those things that I think would be scandalous. I am going to talk to my priest about it, but in the meantime any advice on what I should do?