Each child is different and we have enough love to go around for 2 or 3 or even more. There is no way for a parent to ‘equally’ love each child, we need to be fair, but sometimes folks do have their preferences. We try our best to not let our kids be aware of any favoritism.
What’s important is that one never tells one child or the other that there is favorite. It’s interesting to note that a survey was once done on kids and the majority of times the kids failed to identify which kid in the family was really the favorite.
They always think it is one of the other kids that is the favorite. We try to treat our kids equally well or discipline them equally, but we have in fact mellowed with experience. We were stricter with the older two than the last, but we think the last one is equally well disciplined.
WIth more experience we found things that worked better than before. Luckily our kids have turned out quite well. There does not seem to be any petty jealousies or any squabbles. But the older two do always point out that we were much more strict with them than with the youngest.
We agree with that but, we still managed to raise another well rounded child without spoiling him and with more lax rules. And the results are more important than how we went about it. IF we had known a better way beforehand we may have made different rules for the other 2 as well.
And no, we really do not have a favorite, I love being with any of my kids and there is no way, anyone can get me to choose any one of them over the others, and I’m sure my wife feels the same way. Each child is special in their own way. I believe this is how God feels about each of us. Sometimes one or the other may give us more heart burn than the others, but that does not diminish our love or concern over them.