Here is the story. My wife I were married 8 years ago, in a Presbyterian Church. I am a Catholic, she was raised Seventh Day Adventist. She had been married civilly and divorced civilly about 20 years earlier. It was a late teenage wedding which she did to escape an abusive household. Plus there was some occult practices going on with her mother and step father. She feared for her safety and saw a wedding at city hall as a way out. The marriage didnt work out and she was divorced. Her husband was also not a Catholic.
In the intervening 8 years of our marriage, we have two awesome children who we had baptized Catholic and intended to raise Catholic. She wanted to go through RCIA and I had joined the Knights of Columbus. We were very involved in our parish. All the while not knowing that the church considered us adulterers. She met with our priest and was given docs to file for nullity. She and I reviewed the docs and we just felt so ugly. My wife doesnt want to contact her ex from 25 years ago, she doesnt even know where he is, last she knew, he had remarried a couple of times and she doesn’t want the strain of reliving the past to come upon us in our current marriage. I agree entirely, I don’t want her to have to think about her relationship with another man, or to be tortured by a past decision made to rescue her from a horribly abusive home situation. Plus there are no guarantees that we will get a favorable ruling, which means this will all be for naught. To add insult to injury, my Priest keeps referring to me by her exes name.
I guess there are no easy answers. I returned the nullity forms to the Monsignor today along with a letter indicating that we were going to leave the church and the faith.I am pulling my daughter who is 5 from Little Church classes, and I am going to resign my membership from KofC later this week. I am so sad right now. I feel like I am having my soul ripped apart, but I honestly never knew that the church viewed us as adulterers and my children as illegitimate. I can’t even bear to wear my St. Michael Medal.
I guess we need to find a protestant church but I feel like I am just going through the motions. I am not looking for answers here I guess I just needed to share…sorry