Look you guys are 20 somthing… right? Porn has been around all of your life and been easily available. Secular society and even many protestant groups don’t see it as strongly as many here on this board do. I’ve seen Churches promoting it was “Martial Enhancers”
It’s not the end of the world, it’s a sin though.
Also remember what the definition of porn is, it’s anything that is intended to get you aroused outside of martial relations. Thus some of the TV shows we watch or books people read are considered porn by the Church - “Disparate Housewives”? - definitely. People don’t bring that up much on this board, it’s usually - husband looks at a nude picture so he’s an addict and you should leave him. That’s not reality.
My suggestion - ask him why he is looking at it 3 times a week? Is ti because you guys don’t spend enough time “together”? Ask him if that would make a difference (I’m guessing yes). Not being together enough though IS NOT your fault - make that clear. It’s both of your faults (men tend not to think this way even though it’s true). Tell him that you don’t want him feeling like he has to do that thus you guys need to sit down together and figure out how you can spend more time together. Make him step up to the plate.
IMHO most men view porn because they are lazy in one way or another. They don’t want to get turned down or have to beg if their spouse is too tired so they just watch porn instead.
Communication and spending time together (sometimes just watching a movie) is the best way to combat this. Will he check out a picture of a naked woman from time to time? Yea probably, he is a guy right? Dose that mean he doesn’t love you? or dosen’t find you attractive etc? NOT AT ALL.
Don’t buy into the fallacy that some people promote - just because a man looks at another women in no way means he doesn’t love his wife, find her attractive and even find her more attractive than the person in the picture or movie. The latest trend is what porn is selling tells another story…
Just stuff to think about…
This is my standard message on these threads… talk!
IMHO you did the exact right thing by confronting him. Continue that by working with him to find out why he looks and work on spending more time together. (difficult with kids I know :)) I will agree with some of the harsher people on their board that 3 times a week sounds excessive and could be “addiction” (dare I say the word) but probably not…
Talk, talk talk… and pray pray pray and I believe this will work itself out. Most importantly, don’t let his sin hurt your self esteem. You are a mother and a wife, 2 of the greatest things ever.