I’m looking for some information about “Samatio in radice” or “healing at the root/heart” which is a blessing or validation of a marraige that was outside the Catholic church, and which does not require the participation of both spouses.
I found one other post on this site, but it didn’t fully pertain to my situation. Can you help?
I was baptized a Catholic, went through confession and received first communion - but I was never confirmed. My family became Pentacostal, and I remained in that church until about age 17 when I became angry, confused and felt that my behavior/thoughts were false practices. I have considered myself to be either Agnostic or Protestant until about a year ago (I am now 34.)
I am now going through Confirmation classes, and would like to be confimed in the new year.
In 1995 my husband and I married in a Church of God Chapel at my college. However we were married by one of my college professors who is an ordained minister - but I don’t know really if my marriage would be considered a civil marriage or a Christian marriage - and does it matter when attempting to have my marriage validated by the Catholic church?
The big question is will I qualify for “Samatio in radice?” My husband is 100% unwilling to participate in Convalidation - he says it goes against his values - to be required to say his vows again, so that the Catholic church can say our marriage is valid. My husband is a man of his principles, and is very stubborn - there will be no changing of his mind, unless he decides that he wants to be a Catholic. BTW - He has the same background as myself, he was baptized, went to confession and had first communion, but his family left the church before he could be confirmed.
This is both our first and only marriage. My husband is willing to bring up our two boys in the Catholic church - in that he will come to church on Sunday with us, will allow his children to be baptized and eventually confirmed.
I have no family other than my maternal Grandparents who are practicing Catholics. So I emailed them, when I learned that my marriage had to be convalidated for me to be confirmed, and I talked with Dh and he refused to participation in it. My Grandpa talked to his pastor, and that Father told him about the “Samatio in radice” - I’m just nervous about meeting my pastor for the first time and asking about this process.
Anyhoo - I hope I gave you all the needed info. and someone can help me out.
Thanks for taking the time to read this.