Last year, I posted how my to-be MIL was problematic, especially that she didn’t like how religious I was. She’s grown to like me as a person, I believe, so I think she’s moved more to “marriage” being the problem.
Well, recently she and my DH-to-be had a huge argument about our getting married at 22/23. She says we’re too young, immature, not ready, etc. In trying to argue, he couldn’t get anything more specific as a hallmark of immaturity other than age. Could someone elucidate what makes someone “immature” so that he can more effectively argue (and maybe give us a different angle to view ourselves)?
Also, what can be said about “people changing” in a marriage?
How can you explain how a Christ-centered marriage works?
Why would a mother object to a girl who brings her son closer to God? (his words, not mine)
Mostly, I am not asking these questions because I have doubts. I feel so comfortable and confident in our impending marriage because we have a very Catholic spirituality regarding marriage, sex, family life, etc. However, I’m trying to see if there’s a better way to argue, a better way to view this (or if, as I expect, she is just afraid of losing her “place” in her son’s life, cannot look outside her own priorities and experiences, and any arguments will be fruitless.)