I would like your thoughts on a topic that my boyfriend and I have been discussing. When I was in the 6th grade, I wrote a letter to my future husband that I would save my first kiss for him (I still have the letter). And as I’ve grown up (I’m now a senior in college), I have kept this mentality that I would save my first kiss for my wedding day. I didn’t date all through high school and only started dating my sophomore year of college- so I wasn’t really “challeneged” in this area because I was never presented with the opportunity to kiss someone.
The young man I am dating now, is a very good Catholic and we have been together for ten months. We haven’t kissed (on the lips) yet, but we’ve done kisses on the cheek, forehead, etc. He doesn’t like this “rule” of mine one bit, because he doesn’t think I have a valid reason to be doing it. We have done other forms of physical affection that one could argue a couple might do after their first kiss. He says that if we end up getting married, he’s not going to be super thrilled that I’ve “saved my first kiss for him.” He says he’s not going to kiss me and think, “oh my goodness, I’m so glad we waiting all these years.”
We’ve talked quite a bit about this topic,and he’s convinced that I’m just holding out so I won’t give up on this little challenge I’ve given myself. He’s partly right… That’s kind of what it’s turned into. But the other part of it is that saving my first kiss for my husband is just something that I’d like to do. I think it’s cute, sweet, different, unique. For me it’s not that hard (because I don’t know what I’m missing I guess…), but I know he wants to kiss very badly.
I don’t see anything wrong with kissing. And I definitely see where he’s coming from with his argument that we already are ok with doing things that a couple usually does after their first kiss, so it doesn’t make sense that we don’t kiss.
I’m rather confused, and I don’t really know what to do. I don’t want to kiss him just because he’s asking me to. If I decide that I want to start kissing, I want it to be because I want to. What do y’all think?