Let’s simplify this with a definition.
To be selfish is to be concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself : seeking or concentrating on one’s own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others
Excessively or exclusively is the key here. We have a duty to ourselves and our families health and well being first, but we must not forget others. Also, remember time is just as (if not more) valuable as money. So there is no sin on saving for your future if you are donating your time as well. What good is donating $1000 to the local food cupboard if no one is there to cook the food.
I don’t have a job, only some disability income. between paying my parents for rent, food, cell phone, guide dog necessities, I can only usually save about $100 or so each month. plus all the money I paid for school, and when I didn’t pay, I took out loans.
WOW. In this statement alone you proved that you do not fall under the definition of selfish. If I was you father I would be so proud. To hear that you have stepped up and help your parents out with the monthly bills is quite the accomplishment in the entitled world we live in, especially when I read here that you are disabled. I applaud you angell1.
when I do get a job, obviously I will be receiving more. I’m not really a big spender, I rarely buy anything for myself, unless I really need it. so my money tends to just sit in my account and accumulate, as in savings. I do like to make donations or give to my parish as well so I’m sure that will be factored in.
Good to hear that donations are on your list when you get a job.
but what about whatever’s left over. is it wrong to save a few thousand dollars just because? you never know when you might need it later on.
As someone else pointed out, it is a good rule of thumb to have 6 months expenses tucked away for a rainy day. You should be even more concerned with this since you mention a disability. Plus there are future expenses that we should be concerned with that need to be considered along side our charitable giving. Retirement, future health concerns, etc…
I know the church doesn’t dictate our giving or saving, but are there some sort of guidelines? how much is realistic. because I’m not used to my bank account being anywhere near the thousands. and of course, scruples
You are correct the church doesn’t dictate. I personally would be leery of any church that dictates how much we “OWE” them. What you give is between you and God, he knows your heart. In all of my charitable giving, whether time or money or prayer, I always go to this one verse of scripture.
Every one to whom much is given, of him will much be required; and of him to whom men commit much they will demand the more.