What lengths should we go to keep from causing scandal? People in this day and age have a pretty sick mindset to things in the west, and we can’t get rid of it.
What was once a scandal [two unmarried people living together] is now the norm- many shows if not most have this as a regular thing. Even the Catholic characters sleep around [Grey’s Anatomy anyone? Izzie’s Catholic and they only made her go to Confession after sleeping with another Catholic, who was married- in Vegas without any dispensations. Mind boggling… Makes me wonder if none of the writer’s know anything about Catholicism, or if they’re doing this on purpose].
The hypothetical came up - should young adults stay with their opposite sex parent in a hotel room. The general idea was that, it’s fine.
But it could cause scandal, couldn’t it? A young woman with no wedding ring, and an older man with one? Oh no, affair! He’s cheating- oh, wait. That’s his daughter.
Two siblings might be assumed to be lovers, be they different or same sex considering the culture. A young man staying at his aunt’s house might be assumed to be the boyfriend of the daughter.
I read yesterday that a man in the UK was deemed a pervert for taking pictures of his own children in the park. One woman was angered because while he was taking his own children’s picture, her daughter happened to be in the shot as well.
Also read an article recently about a woman who had had a sexual relatonship with her brother from when they were 14/15 until college. The comments at the bottom of the article? “Well, I might not, but if it’s two consenting people I don’t see why not.” and other similar views.
The world is sick. We can’t live huddled in our rooms for fear of being labeled sick as well.
Now, I know it’s not a good idea to sleep over at your boyfriend’s house and then tell everyone, even if you didn’t sleep together. That I can see as wrong. But say you’re eating dinner with his family, then start to watch a movie. You see two, and it ends up terribly late. You crash on the couch, go home in the morning. Your family knows where you were, your friends ask and you say you borrowed the couch. End of story. You can’t go door to door to every neighbor and say “Hello, good morning. Just wanted to say that if you saw me leave my boyfriend’s house a few minutes ago, we weren’t having sex last night. I slept on their couch, I promise. I’m Catholic- premarital sex is bad.”
Again, slightly rant-y, but it has to be said. What should we do to avoid scandal, and how much is out of our hands?