[quote="Faithdancer, post:1, topic:252154"]
Let me say first off that I am not a parent. However, as a dance instructor and choreographer, I think I can speak with a little authority about what I've been seeing from a host of dance competitions. I'm not naming any names, they all sound the same anyway. And another thing they have in common, sadly, is a tendency to support dances which involve children in inappropriate costuming and choreography, often dancing to inappropriate music as well, with hairstyles and makeup that recall the sad case of Jon-Benet Ramsey.
Is it a matter of some parents being so desperate for recognition or fleeting fame that they are willing to parade their children on stage looking and moving like this? So vicarious...and that's not to excuse the others involved- the dance teachers, choreographers, studio owners, competition owners, teachers, and judges.
I judged one dance competition, not really knowing what I was going to see. Never again.:eek: And that was one of the more conservative ones! I also judged a beauty pageant one year and in their favor, I will say that that pageant is sponsored by conservative Evangelicals, there is no makeup allowed in the pre-teen and under divisions and only minimal makeup in the junior teens and up. There is no swimsuit competition in that pageant either.
Is it any wonder that teen promiscuity and abortions are rampant, when some adults have such little regard for the innocence of youth?
I'm wondering if anyone else has experienced these events, and what your thoughts are. I'm also wondering why, with so many millions of faithful Christians in America, there aren't more alternatives?:confused:
Back to the OP's comments or questions.
We did experience what you are describing when my daughter was first interested in dance. It didn't become apparent until the recital was coming up and we were told exactly what the costumes would be, the makeup the girls had to wear and the poses they would have to make for the pictures for the recital program. None of the parents were consulted in the decision making, every costume was hand picked by the studio owner/instructor. I was horrified with the costumes (very sexy) and how much makeup my daughter was required to wear, not to mention the sexy poses they wanted the girls to strike for the pictures. Unfortunately, or we were extremely blessed depending upon how you look at it, my daughter got the stomach flu the day of the recital and didn't perform, but we had already made up our minds we were going to look for a different dance studio.
My daughter was in first grade, she told me herself she felt extremely uncomfortable with the costumes and what was being required for her to be in the recital. We did find another studio, the owner was much more relaxed about costumes, makeup was optional, and the choreography was kept age appropriate. The owner of this studio didn't do competitions for many of the reasons you have stated. In her opinion, the competitions were becoming less and less about the actual art of dance.
There's a show on the LIfetime network that focuses on these competitions called "Dance Mom." I checked out an episode or two because the studio featured is my area and my niece is heavily involved in these competitions herself. After watching it, I just do not understand the appeal of the whole thing. I understand wanting your child to study dance if that is their passion, but these competitions are another thing all together.