I want to show my friend that Church does not encourage (or forbids ) scattering of ashes, like throw the ashes out to sea. Is there somewhere in Cathechism or Canon Law. I have to show it to him in written ..
Ashes are not to be scattered. From this document ewtn.com/library/CURIA/CDWCREMA.HTM (bold emphasis added):
417 The cremated remains of a body should be treated with the same respect given to the human body from which they come. This includes the use of a worthy vessel to contain the ashes, the manner in which they are carried, the care and attention to appropriate placement and transport, and the final disposition. The cremated remains should be buried in a grave or entombed in a mausoleum or columbarium. The practice of scattering cremated remains on the sea, from the air, or on the ground, or keeping cremated remains in the home of a relative or friend of the deceased are not the reverent disposition that the Church requires. Whenever possible, appropriate means for recording with dignity the memory of the deceased should be adopted, such as a plaque or stone which records the name of the deceased.
Someone once said that cremation is not the disposal of the body, but rather another way of preparing them for disposition.
I think part of the (former) frowning upon cremation and the former/current teaching on scattering ashes stems from the distant past, when non-Christians would request cremation in a sort of "in your face...let's see your almighty resurect these ashes into a glorified body" response to the notion of resurrection.
Recently, in his homily, our priest talked about this, although he did not quote reference sources. He said although cremation is allowed the scattering of ashes is forbidden as is keeping ashes at home in an urn. He said after cremation the ashes should be put in a suitable container and then interred.
Thank you , great help. Merry Christmas
Note that it is permissible to bury the ashes at sea, but they must be in a suitable container - not scattered.
Pick up your Catechism, look in the index in back under "Cremation" and read what it says.