School Warns Parents Dead Daughter Can't Go to Prom

School Warns Parents Dead Daughter Can’t Go to Prom
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,510471,00.html

The parents of a British teen, who died suddenly two months ago, received a disturbing letter from the girl’s high school saying she needs to improve her attendance or can’t go to the prom, the Manchester Evening News reported…

This kind of happened to me. My wife passed away in 2000 and I went to a funeral home down from the hospital. They wanted $3000 bucks for a cremation I looked at the guy and right like I’m going to make your limo payment and walked out. Went to an independent funeral home for got it done for $800 bucks.

Well six months later I get a letter addressed to my wife from them about purchasing burial plots. I complained to them and they stopped for six months. I still get those letters addressed to her to this day, I just throw them away.

My sister got mail to our house years after she died. I think the worse ones were the phone solicitations, it was pretty hard on my mom to here people ask for my sister after she died.
I read the article, there was nothing malicious on the part of the school. It was a software error, that spit out a form letter for all students with low attendance. I feel for the parents, but I don’t really think this is worthy of international news. Its pretty common to have mail sent to someone after they have already passed away.

Yeah AARP sends stuff so she can join. I agree with you but with 24 hour news channels and websites they have to put something. If it was in American somebody would probably try to sue the school system. The UK has better laws about that kind of stuff than we do.

Yeah, I was waiting to hear about a suit for emotional pain & suffering…:wink:
After my husband died we got all kinds of mail addressed to him.A few phone solicitations, too.Went on for a several years.Hasn’t happened in a while now.Guess they finally figured out you don’t need credit cards in Heaven.

What I’ve been told in the UK if you start a law suit and you lose you pay. I wish it was like that here in the States that would stop a lot of those stupid law suits but when our laws are made and passed by lawyers it will never happen.

The error was that someone forgot to remove Megan’s name from the attendance list. If they had remembered to do that, none of this would have ever happened. The low-level flunky who was stuffing the envelopes would have had no way of knowing who Megan was, or that she was dead.

+1, Stan, +1 :thumbsup:

DaveBj

I feel sad for this poor woman, having to undergo this painful reminder of the loss of her daughter…

But the headline gave me the momentary image of a zombie-girl in a prom dress shambling into the high school gym on prom night and getting turned away by some freaked-out chaperones.

My brother was doing tele-marketing for an investment company last year. He called one family and an older woman answered…he introduced himself by his first name and asked to speak to “Mr. So and so”…she said, “I’m sorry dear. My husband passed away several months ago.” My brother told her how sorry he was to bother her and he was sorry to hear of her husband’s passing.

A day later he got his list of names to call and began making them…an older woman answered the phone…after his introduction…she asked him “Bill, is that you?” He said yes it was…“Bill, my husband is still dead Dear…I don’t think he’s interested.”

My brother checked his numbers every day afterwards to not get “repeat calls”…he said he felt so bad to have done that…and that the woman handled it very graciously…better than he would have.

That happened to me when I was a fifteen year old kid, back then we just went down a phonebook dialed a number, and asked whomever that name was in the book. I felt so bad after three days of talking to elderly people and listening to no sorry my husband’s passed away and the other problems I quit.

Call me a coward I couldn’t hack it. Put me in a battlefield I can deal with that. :o

THE parents of a girl who died suddenly two months ago have been sent a letter from her school demanding she improves her attendance.

Signed by the deputy headmaster, the letter threatened to ban Megan Gillan from the end of year prom.

‘Floored’

Her parents Mark and Margaret said they were floored' by the letter from Macclesfield High. Megan, 15, was found dead in her bedroom on January 19 at the family home at Flying Fields Drive, in the town. The letter - dated March 16 - saidstudents must have at least 92 per cent attendance and Megan’s is currently 60.4pc’.

Mrs Gillan, who works in A&E at Macclesfield Hospital, said: "I screamed when I first saw it. If they want her to attend that much I’ll take Megan’s remains. It’s disgusting.
Megan doesn’t go to that school anymore. She’s been dead for two months now so it’s not surprising her attendance is low. I was pulling myself together to go back to work, but receiving the letter has just floored me.

‘Friends’

“Megan would have loved going to the prom. She planned to go with a group of friends, she was really looking forward to it.”
The letter carried the signature of deputy head G White. Headteacher Ged Ward has now apologised for the ‘software error’.

‘Apology’

Mr Ward said: “Clearly that letter should not have gone out. I want to make my apology to Megan’s parents and can only apologise for the distress that it has caused.
“The letter was sent out to all year 11 parents regarding the school prom.
“We didn’t think to check it. With hindsight we would have checked all 150 of them. The problem is a software problem.”

‘Never forgive’

But the family say they could never forgive the mistake.
Mr Gillan, 53, a civic attendant for Macclesfield Borough council, found Megan in her bedroom. He said: “To send a letter to her family when you are trying to come to terms with her death is just not right.”
Mr Ward said the school uses the software SIMS (School Information Management Systems) which is produced by Capita.

‘Unknown’

He said: “Unknown to the school, Megan’s details had remained in a different part of the computer system and were called up when the school did a mail merge letter to the parents of all Year 11 students. The letter called up details of each student’s attendance for the whole year to date and because Megan had been on roll in September, she was included.
“Capita has acknowledged to the school that there is a problem with this part of its software and is working to remedy it, because they realise that it could affect other schools.
“Capita has asked the school to convey their apologies to Mr and Mrs Gillan.”

I’d imagine the system is a lot like here in Australia - meaning that it’s not a fixed rule. But of course it is true in a lot of cases that costs in a lawsuit may well be awarded against someone who brings it and loses, especially if it’s a frivolous one.

Other factors come into play though, such as whether the person defending the suit went overboard in their defence. If the defendant is responsible for unnecessary delays, rejects reasonable offers of settlement, hires lots of lawyers or experts without need to do so or the like, they will find that they have to wear the unreasonable extra costs even if they win.

THE parents of a girl who died suddenly two months ago have been sent a letter from her school demanding she improves her attendance. blink.gif

Signed by the deputy headmaster, the letter threatened to ban Megan Gillan from the end of year prom.

‘Floored’

Her parents Mark and Margaret said they were floored' by the letter from Macclesfield High. Megan, 15, was found dead in her bedroom on January 19 at the family home at Flying Fields Drive, in the town. The letter - dated March 16 - saidstudents must have at least 92 per cent attendance and Megan’s is currently 60.4pc’.

Mrs Gillan, who works in A&E at Macclesfield Hospital, said: "I screamed when I first saw it. If they want her to attend that much I’ll take Megan’s remains. It’s disgusting.

Megan doesn’t go to that school anymore. She’s been dead for two months now so it’s not surprising her attendance is low. I was pulling myself together to go back to work, but receiving the letter has just floored me.

There was a story about Newfoundland’s first Premier, Joey Smallwood, back in the Forties (before he was premier, natch) when he was stumping around the outports drumming up support for Confederation with Canada. His habit was to shake hands with the men, and say, “How are you?” and then “And how is your wife?”

He inevitably would come across a widower, who would reply so, and Joey would give condolences. At the end of one stumping visit to a small community, there were a few stragglers, a widower whom he had already met but had forgotten. He approached the man and said, “How are you?”

“Fine, sir,” was the reply.

“And how is your wife?”

“Still dead, sir.”

Apparently Joey was far more careful after that.

You’re not a coward. If you didn’t feel bad for them and causing them pain, and only avoided talking to them because you were just uncomfortable, then maybe, yeah. But it is never cowardice to want to avoid causing unnecessary pain: that’s actually compassion. That you felt bad and dropped a paycheck rather than put little old ladies through that – to me, that says volumes.

Hoo-ah!:thumbsup:

I believe it is like that in Canada also. I’m sure one of our Canadian friends will correct me if I am wrong. I am so sorry for your pain. That is a gross invasion of privacy.

We are still getting things for my mother-in-law who passed in 1999. She lived with us in another state and we have been at our current address, different state, for six years.

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