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That was almost exactly it, Phemie! No singing. His homily was basically a thank you to everyone on behalf of his family for all of the prayers that they have been the beneficiary of then last month. Very brief, but he is never long-winded. The whole thing from start to finish was about ten minutes.
The singing is optional. If the family is very involved in planning this liturgy, we usually have singing because they make sure there is someone there to lead it. If the family is only going along with what the Church provides, then it's usually a very short liturgy. In both cases we involve the family in reading the First Reading and the Responsorial Psalm. Whoever is leading this liturgy reads the Gospel. If the priest is not the one leading it there is usually just a silent reflection, no homily.
While in the US the funeral liturgy has a place at the end for someone for a family member or friend to say something (which usually ends up being a eulogy), in Canada that option is included in the Funeral Vigil liturgy, not at the Funeral Mass itself.
I've led several of these liturgies in recent years since we've often been weeks without a priest in the community. First it was because the Pastor was in another community and now it's because we have no Pastor and the administrator doesn't want to do anything that doesn't require a priest.
This week he's out of the community and the other person who usually does these liturgies with me had to go to the hospital to baptize a sick baby on Sunday. But next month we should hear who is being named Pastor and he should be taking his place in our community in August. It can't happen soon enough.